uhhh......let me see if I got this right.......you don't want to accept a friends request until you get a chance to "chat" with them first but then you're "friends only".  Is it just me or does this seem like a contradiction?  I guess you got enough friends and don't want anymore, huh?  How about you start your own site where you won't be bothered by us?

Kitten I personaly love the little comments that you send me, and the poems you write. Sometimes it's the only bright spot of the day.
ME I personaly don't ask any one to be friends unless I can read a little about them on thier page , so if ya got something to hide go back in your little hole and hide from the rest of us and you will never get to know any of us. I wished they would take that feature off the site (friends only), I mean thats what we're here for to talk to people from other places and get to know them. 

I went to read your profile and it's 'for friends only'.  Now how can I possibly get to know you?  How can one get to know you if you don't let them in?  That says to me that you want to be the one to do the iniating...Well feel free to view my profile.  I am open to the public, that's what I joined this site for...to meet people online.

When I first joined I also got many friend requests from members I did not know.  There's a choice, accept or deny.  I denied many, often with a note saying, let's get to know each other first.  I'm sure I offended many, now I regret that.  I became aware that this is how the site works.

Now when I get a friend's request....I accept.  I comment w/a thank you and add...'keep in touch, that's how friendships grow'.  If I do not hear from them after a month or so....then I delete.  I appreciate it when someone takes the time to request me as their friend and/or if they send me a comment. 

During the past 4 years I have met over 300 'online friends' in person.  Talk about being blessed, that's me.  That number would have been much smaller had I not given people the opportunity to be my friend by accepting their request before I actually 'got to know' them.

 Good luck with making friends....you will be limited b/c you are the one that has to make the first step.  Evidently that is how you stay in control.  

You may have ended up being a very good friend....and perhaps even met in the future...but now, I'll never know.  *sigh*

Keep it up & in the wind......*smiles*....cweet char

Like kitten said.. alot of us do put out effort to pick out the right picture.. or create our own welcome pictures..



It isn't always just a picture.. like kitten said it is our own unique expression we send to you and all that we chose to send to.. It doesn't bother me that one has nothing in their profile when they first come here.. I figure they need the time to sit & think as to what they wish to add to their profile.. To show others who they are.. that way they are not just picking out pics just to have pictures on their profiles.. but the are actually representing whom they are within those pics.. wether there are words within them or not.. And to read someone profile is fun  because you can get an understanding as to who they are.. what they like or dislike.. I also know alot out there are just for the numbers.. i'm not! But I won't turn down an invite at anytime.. As kitten said.. it's your choice to add them or not.. I also will try to get to know them.. not everyone will like everyone.. thus we delete for our own reasons.. sometimes I don't hear from new friends who have sent me an invite for quite sometime.. we all have other things to do then be on here all the time.. tho I do come on every day & check my own messeges/comments.. I enjoy getting them.. kitten sends some nice ones.. they make me smile.. they make me laugh.. I like a good laugh & smile to start my day.. maybe you are an asshole as you said.. so lol.. their are many around.. but ya know some assholes can be fun.. oh that sounded bad lmao.. but you get what i'm saying hehe.. have a wonderful & safe 4th..

Melody

The oddity you speak of, I do fully understand. That does leave a question mark. If I welcome someone, then get a friends request, and there is absolutly nothing in their profile, I give them the benefit of the doubt, and accept for reasons I stated on your other blog. If after that they cross a line, I simply delete them. If I find something extrememly offensive (doesnt happen often) I don't accept it. Mine is not to rack up numbers. (And just for the record, I very rarely  ever send a friends request.) Those that are 'racking up' generally have a number of friends just within a few days. Easy enough to spot.

Now...had a love of 'word' my whole life. Love to write. Love to read. And I could simply write a comment or message of welcome...BUT
My way of looking at it is this...the internet is about word, but it is also about visual. This welcome I gave you

wasn't just something I ran and picked outta some site. As far as ANY comment I send, I go thru hundreds of photos to find just the right ones. They are all sought out for a reason. As with this one, its saved on my computer, brought up in a program, the 'welcome to the' and  justmike and kitten were added, then its saved and uploaded into photobucket. Thats a lot of work to do to welcome someone. Just taking the time to write a welcome would have been so much easier don't you think?
 To me its like giving a gift. You talk about getting to know someone, well things like that are a part of who I am.
I don't much now, and not like I used to, but a few years ago on another site, I got up 45 minutes early every single morning and left a comment on each persons page. Maybe funny, maybe goofie, sweet, sparkly, beautiful, just whatever the mood struck. When I stopped, well, you'd be suprised at how many big burly bikers said they misssed them. Said they enjoyed starting thier day with them.
You see, I call them smiles. Its a part of giving, part of who I am. (God I hope this doesn't ruin my reputation!)
The same with the graphics (mixed with words) on my page. Each one is sought out and hand picked. They're not just a bunch of pictures randomly placed. Each one is a representation of who I am.

Perhaps you are an asshole. Or maybe just honest and forthright in the way you do things. In the way you present yourself. It is your right and personal preference to put the message out there about friends, and to not want the graphics on your page.

Its my right and personal preference to give you shit .
(just the other side of the coin)